Parents… you’re stupid, and your kids aren’t special. Deal with it.

I was born, raised, and live in Utah. I love it. We have some of the greatest things to offer. Four very different seasons, so we can enjoy golfing in the summer, hunting and fishing in the fall, snow activities galore in the winter, and baseball, lacrosse or any other sport you could imagine in the spring. The beauty of the state is beyond anything anyone can imagine. The Red-Rocks and slot canyons in Southern Utah, the arches in Moab, the mountain ranges in downtown Salt Lake, and the forest of blue-spruce’s up north.

I love this state. But why is it that our youth are killing themselves at a higher rate than the national average?  Every 8.5 our of 100,000 youth will commit suicide in Utah. Why do we have crazy-ass soccer moms popping pills by the hour to cope with life? Why are our children living in their parents basements until they’re in their mid-30’s?

We have weird people living here, who want to be special. Here is a secret i’m going to let you in on. You’re not special. My childhood I followed my dad around the house and yard when I was five years old because he was my hero. When I got in my preteen years, I had four best friends around the neighborhood, and we raised hell. We doorbell ditched, we rode ATV’s on the hill by our house’s, we chased girls, we played basketball at the park, there wasn’t a minute of our free time that we weren’t outside. When I was in high school, I played every sport that I could.  I fell in love with football, and it’s still a major part of my life, and I went to every party, game, or school event I could. It was a good life, a happy life, but I wasn’t anything special. Look at my report card.

That’s a major problem in society. We have parents who think that their child is the best thing since sliced bread, when in reality they’re just another fish in the pond. The helicopter dad who thinks his son is better at sports than he really is, is setting his son up for failure. If he isn’t getting the playing time his dad thinks he deserves, the dad doesn’t tell him to work harder, or listen to the coach, he tells him it’s everyone else’s fault. He isn’t teaching his son accountability. If he doesn’t reach his dad’s lofty and unrealistic expectations, he thinks he’s a loser. Listen I’m sure you were Bo Jackson in your prime, but let your kid live his life, with his friends, on his team. He’ll be happier and more prepared for what’s about to come. Don’t live in the past Uncle Rico. Enjoy the present.

Then there’s the “I don’t want to life a finger, so i’m going to let the iPad parent my kid” type of parent. If you’re that parent, stop that shit right now, and pay attention. I was at a park playing baseball with my boy (who by the way loves electronics, and it’s a daily fight to get him to play only 30 minutes a day) I was throwing him pitches, he was swinging the bat. We were laughing. But the odd thing was, we were the only people at a park on a 65 degree spring day. As we we’re cleaning up, another family came up and started playing on the playground. But that Mom had her head burred in her phone the entire time. No interaction with her children except to say, “Be careful” every five minutes or so. She may not have been a strung-out junkie, but she’s just as addicted to that phone. She didn’t have track marks, but she hadn’t been out in the sun for a long time either. An albino alligator has a better tan than she did. I’m not going to say that’s just as bad, but jeez get a life. Get them off electronics. I understand it’s part of today’s culture.  Let them play their video games, but don’t let it run their life or yours.

When it’s all said and done, I wan’t my kid to look back and say, “Dad was a dude who cared about me.” That’s all. When I look at my kids life I want them to know they’re special to me. I don’t want them to think they’re a failure because they didn’t live up to some stupid standard. I was a good football player, I have the awards to show it, my dad couldn’t have gave rats arse about how good I was. He was just happy to see me doing something I loved. I wasn’t special, I didn’t achieve great academic success, It took me SEVEN years to get a teaching degree in English (That I let lapse a long time ago). But I’m happy.

So maybe you do have the next Lebron James as a kid, even though he’s 5′ 9″ , can’t beat a sloth in a race, and can’t dribble, but let him discover how good he is not you. Because remember, no one gives a rip about what your kid is doing.

 

 

 

OJ Simpson is bone chilling.

Listening to OJ Simpsons hypothetical confession from 2006 that aired this week has to be one of the more eye opening interviews I’ve ever watched. OJ Simpson talked openly about how a murder would’ve happened if he did it. Here is a small snippet of what he said,

“As things got heated, I just remember Nicole fell and hurt herself. And this guy kind of got into a karate thing. I said ‘you think you can kick my ass’.  I remember I grabbed the knife, I do remember that portion, taking the knife from Charlie and to be honest after that I don’t remember. I think everything is covered… would have been covered in blood,” Simpson said.

Remember this is all hypothetical Simpson would repeat many times during the interview. There’s plenty of evidence that you can research that points to OJ Simpson as being the murderer of Ron Goldman and Nicole Brown. Fivers on the knit cap found at the murder scene match materials found in OJ’s Bronco.  The police found a glove that matched another bloody glove found at Nicole Browns house at behind OJ’s air conditioner. I’m not here to convince anyone of OJ’s guilt. I’m convinced he did it. I’m also convinced that Mark Fuhrman is a racist who planted evidence against OJ. Fuhrman ruined any chance at a conviction with his awful actions.

However, I don’t need the court of law to tell me OJ did it. When you listen to his interviews, when you look into his eyes, when he laughs about all the hypothetical blood that covered the hypothetical dead bodies, it sent shivers up my spine. What’s awful about it all is the racial divide it has brought still 24 years later.

I don’t care if OJ did it or not. I’ve never met the guy, I’ll never meet him, so as far as I’m concerned, he’s just another rich person who paid the right legal team to get him out of a murder charge.

IF you haven’t watched the interview here it is. Tell me that it doesn’t send chills up your spine.

 

In my opinion, he stops talking hypothetically and uses the term “I” many times when describing what happened. If there was any doubt in your mind that he may have did it, this maybe something that will change your mind. Granted Simpson served many years in prison for an armed robbery he later committed, and by all accounts, his life looks to have taken a major turn for the worse since 1994. He had acting roles in major movie’s, was the spokesperson for Hertz, and was beloved by everybody. Now… the only time you hear about him is connected to the murders, and he’ll never be a star again. What say you? Do you think he did it?

Trigger word… GUNS

I usually write about sports, coaching, or my journey of writing books. (Bring the Heat) still being queried and shopped.) Today, I’m going to do something I swore I’d never do.  I”m going to make this a political blog. Remember we can disagree politically without thinking the other person is evil. That’s lazy, and isn’t helpful.

The Disturbing video of President Donald Trump saying that police should take guns from Americans first and deal with the consequence’s later should alarm every single American. Whether you’re for gun control or you’re 2nd amendment defender, this is scary.

The President wants to take guns because he thinks he can. That’s not passing legislation on gun laws, and that sure isn’t protecting the 2nd amendment. What about locking down schools and making them a safer place, so some maniac can’t come in and hurt our children? Trump wants to raise the legal age to purchase an AR-15 to 21? Then raise the age of the people who can join the military from 18-21. Our children can fight for our country, but can’t purchase a gun?

I’m all for having stricter background checks to purchase any weapon, but can we put to bed the lazy narrative that Semi-automatic weapons are automatic weapons. Semi-auto guns means one trigger squeeze = one bullet. We ask our students to educate themselves on wars, algebra, and prepositional phrases, but we can’t ask ourselves to learn a few things about guns?

Mental illness is a big problem in the United States. We need better background checks just for that purpose, but gun free zones aren’t the answer, and neither is a President deciding to take guns without cause. To the people who think it’s a good idea to for the President just to confiscate your weapons whats next? Our land? Our food? Our freedom?

If the President wants to ban bump stocks, high capacity magazines, and anyone with mental illness from having a firearm, that’s fine. I’m in favor of all that. But we need to be careful of the amount of power We the People give anyone. Because there will be a time that someone else is in charge that you don’t agree with.

In the 1950’s physical education classes taught rifle shooting in schools. I don’t ever remember reading about someone going on a mass shooting using the rifle they received from school. When I was in junior high, we had archery shooting in class. Nobody ever let arrows fly towards another human.

To be clear, I think some gun reform is necessary, but it needs to be done legally and lawfully. I can’t go around stealing other people’s property, and neither should the government. Far radicals on either side of the table they are never going to agree on this issue. However, if we as a society can, we’ll be much better off.